Let’s see. Sunday, Monday, blog-day. Whew! I thought I missed it. Naa. How are you doing? Got a comfy chair? Good. Me? I’m all hyped and ready to type! Today I’m switching back to my serious side. I’m going to take a social matter by the horns, and try not to get carried away. Get ready to scroll. Making the jump to blogging cyber speed, now!
A woman is thinking to herself, at the door to her best friend’s house, who is having a birthday party: I’m tired of running into men that smile at me, tell me what they think I want hear, and work so hard to get me to believe that they care about me as much as my body. It’s getting way too easy to tell what most of them are thinking about as soon as our eyes meet. But tonight is going to be different. Tonight I’m not going to be bothered with the date jockeys.
Tonight I, Amara Shanice Clayton, am not going to settle for just some man with a great athletic body, and a star actor’s good looks. No way. From now on, I’m only going to deal with men who show me real respect, and prove that they are worth me knowing.”
The door opens, and Amara steps into her best friend’s house, gives her a hug and immediately spot’s a man over at the kitchen sipping from a glass tumbler. She can’t take her eyes off of him. Neither does he look anywhere else but straight back at her. She thinks to herself, he’s built like the man of my dreams. …All athletic, extremely good looking, and he’s over there by himself. But is he the real deal or just another date jockey?
Amara’s best friend see’s who Amara has eyes for, immediately insists on introducing her to him, and gently pushes her in his direction with a smile. The man sets his drink slowly down on a kitchen counter and awaits Amara’s arrival.
The man is thinking to himself: Oh yeah. She has got to be a model. …And if she’s coming over here, she’s not the least bit shy about being introduced. But how long will it take to convince her that I’m a nice guy, before I can get her where I want her? Hey, from the way she’s looking at me that’s not going to be a problem, or my name isn’t Adarian Jayden Kimble.
Hold it. I believe this is my bus stop. Yup. This is where I get off. -Talk a Little Street.
Did you know that the best or worse thing about someone is what’s inside their mind?
Most of the time you can only find out what’s going on in a person’s mind by what a person does or says. Waitaminute! That’s the only way you can do it! But what if they’re hiding something in their mind? Is there a way of finding out what invisible things they’re hiding when you first meet them? I would say… Uh… No. But this would be a great place for an emoji with a thinking face, right? Okay, I’ll order one later. But right now, I want to tell you something you might really be able to use.
First meetings and first dates shouldn’t be where you start to trust a person. During first meetings and first dates is where you learn only what a person wants you to learn. -Not what you really need to know.
What you really need to know, about a person you are thinking about making a friend or having a dating relationship with, comes through checking them out for a while. -And that takes more than a day or two. -that is if you’re serious about finding out whatever it is they’re hiding!
People hide things like having a bad temper, prejudice, a low tolerance for not having things their own way, being untrustworthy, telling lies over the limit, having a police record in three states, and so on and so on. Again, I say that the only way to find out what a person is hiding about themselves is through studying them. Kind of the way a job interviewer studies a job applicant for a job position.
They run a credit background check, a criminal background check, check to see what an applicant’s employment history is like, ask specific question and weigh their answers. -Not to mention, check out the applicant’s overall attitude, behavior, and sincerity to be a good worker. A similar method should be used when accepting a new friend or a date partner.
Nope. I am not saying that anyone has to do a background check on a new date partner or a new friend. But what I am saying is that before you start trusting a new friend or date partner with your safety, personal information, body, feelings, money and such… Let them earn your trust first.
And please, please, please, don’t let what a person looks like, or how nice they are to you be the measuring stick you use to tell you if a person is trustworthy or not.
Please don’t rush things! Give them time to prove they are not faking being nice, and also that they are as nice on the outside as they are on the inside. Your safety, health, and your feelings are at risk. I say, “date nice.” -Date as wisely as you can.
If I did date, I would stick to dating out in public for a short while, just to see if my date partner was a date jockey or what. Date jockeys don’t usually like hanging around date partners that aren’t open to taking dating to the physical level as soon as possible. -Which will definitely tell you something about how a date jockey rolls.
Hey, it’s time to pick up my feet and be someplace else. I really do appreciate your coming by for a read.
I’m on the prayer committee for people being blessed. I truly believe you’re on God’s agenda for people to be blessed.
Until next blog. B Y E